- Don’t go out and splurge!
Your unique style is part of you, and that’s exactly what every house wants to see. Do not bother going out and buying an outfit for every round of recruitment! The items you have in your closet will be just fine. Find a piece you really like? Awesome! Go for it. But don’t assume for a second that new clothes, shoes, and accessories are necessary for recruitment.
- Don’t mold yourself to fit an image.
I can tell you from experience that when I went through recruitment I really wanted to put together a combination of outfits that screamed me. So I steered away from the stereotypical look that had been engrained into my mind of what a young woman should wear for rush. I am most comfortable and expressive in my flowy bohemian inspired pieces… so that’s exactly what I wore. And if I’m being completely honest it made an impression! My preference round I was floored by the reactions I received from houses on my look (maxi skirt with 70’s inspired high neck crop top). “You are shining in that outfit!” “This totally looks like you!” And I couldn’t have felt more comfort in knowing that my two favorite houses could tell how relaxed I was in my own skin. So go with your gut and style, and pick the pieces that scream you and make you stand out. You don’t have to always wear a dress on preference round! Go for something that will make the girls in the houses say “remember ____, she was rocking that jumpsuit!”
- Do thoughtful research
I did not know any of the sororities at USC prior to going through recruitment. When I signed up is when I first saw the list of houses, with Greek names that I can definitively confess I did not know how to pronounce. So I went and followed the houses on Instagram, or checked out their Facebook during the summer to see what they were up to. My favorite part of this process was taking a look at the opportunities I was going to open myself up to by going through recruitment. It seemed like these women were EVERYWHERE. Volunteering, going to games, going to fun events like roller-skating or hiking trips, studying together… like honestly what weren’t they doing all over campus?!
- DON’T research where you shouldn’t be.
Ahhhhhh good ole’ Greek Rank. The place where intelligent, classy sorority women go to find “insight” on the chapters here at USC. Harmless right? Wrong. You cannot be serious… Ladies do NOT fill your life with such negativity! You are strong, smart, driven women who do not need the malicious words of others to tell you which houses are “worthy” of your attention. Don’t browse, breeze over, surf, or even scroll. It is not worth your time nor energy, and honestly if you live and breathe from this site… maybe you just aren’t mature enough to handle this life changing process. Any site that degrades ambitious and beautiful women like Greek Rank is not even worth a glimpse.
- Do prepare yourself for long hot days in the Carolina heat.
Essentials for keeping yourself comfortable during the process…
- Dry shampoo
- Spray some setting spray on in the morning! Even if you wear little to no make up it will really help with reducing shine and sweaty discomfort.
- Deodorant and perfume
- Tissues (to blot sweaty faces)
- Extra hair ties and bobby pins. Sometimes the hair just has to go up! Change up your hairstyle without feeling like you are ready to play in a soccer game. A cute high ponytail or braid will do the trick when you feel like you’re about to melt.
- Don’t party or go downtown.
Don’t. Even. Think. About. It. Recruitment is a long and tedious process, you need to be alert and ready to face a new day— fresh conversations and new opportunities to talk to amazing women from all over the country are on the agenda… not a hangover and disciplinary measures. Don’t ruin this for yourself, your first night out in the college world will come… I promise. It doesn’t need to come this soon.
- Do allow yourself to open up to the process…
Okay all my gals from up north or far away… how much of this is SO foreign to you?! Like the chants and rituals… at first it seems, well to be honest, pretty silly. Remember, those recruiting are having fun and being silly because they want to. They love their chapters, and their funny songs and goofy chants. It is just their tradition and has been for decades. So allow yourself to smile, giggle, and even sing along in your head (because best believe those cheers get stuck in there). You will never get to go through this process again, so take it all in.
- …But don’t take it too seriously
At the end of the day, this process is about talking to women. This is a skill we have been learning ever since we had our first mumbled conversation with our moms. We are all connected, and all capable of holding thoughtful and genuine conversations with one another. Strip away the decorations and outfits, and what do you have left? In total you have about five hours of talking with another young lady just like yourself. You guys didn’t click? No worries, you’re meant to find your home elsewhere. Got dropped from your all time favorite house? You’re basing this perspective off of just minutes of a conversation! It’s absolutely okay. It may happen, but trust in your heart that you weren’t made to be a part of that chapter. You were put in that moment to have a lovely conversation, but not meant to be a member for the rest of your life. This process does not define you, so do not let it! You, as your perfect self, will compliment one of these chapters in the most amazing way. You do not need to mold yourself. You are an addition, not a copy. Do not take this as a serious, anxious, stressful and traumatic time. It’s just having some really great conversations with some really great gals.
Madi Carzon ~ VP of Public Relations ~ University of South Carolina Panhellenic Association